OLD FRIENDS

There is nothing more beautiful than old friends.   Yesterday a group of friends got togehter to celebrate Jill's 65th birthday.   Most of us had known one another for over 30 years.   It was a very grand celebration.   Not only of Jill's special day but also the celebration of lasting friendships.

We had all been there for Jill when her husband died of terrible pancriatic cancer.   They had all been there when two of my children were born.   Most of us had shared our troubles and our triumphs with each other all through the years of bringing up our children, teenage traumas, weddings, deaths,  following our careers and slowly coming into the autumn of our years.   As a group we are a force to be reckoned with.

We have catered for school functions - never to be matched over the years!   We have played hard and loved hard and we have overcome diversities and diversions.   But all through these years we have remained the friends we can rely on.

We were a motely crew on the day each bearing a hat that spoke volumes!   I had on the hat I had bought for my daughter's wedding 6 years ago.   Sadly her marraige broke up and her heart was broken but yesterday the hat came out for a happy celebration.   Millie wore a minute little top hat made of red felt and black tuille.   It matched her red, white and blue outfit and she looked very chic.   Candy had made cardboard cut out flowers on her  new computer and her husband had sewn them onto her sun hat as Candy is not that domisticated.   It was a riot of colour.   Tony wore a children's Mr Plod the Policeman hat and Lizzie wore a jester's cap in brilliant shades of red, blue and yellow.   The best hat of all, in my mind, was Jill's.   She had on a classic white panama trimmed with black and white.   The hat had originally belonged to her daughter, Candy, when she had belonged to the church choir many years ago.   It was just the right hat to wear to a wonderful morning tea party in the garden.   It was just Jill!

What a wonderful way to spend a morning.   All embraced by the love and warmth of old friends! 

Writer's Block

What is writer's block?   I am not sure how to describe it but I had every intention of writing a book in this year and I find myself spending hours doing everything else except sitting down to write.   It is so frustratng!    It is like being handicapped but you do not know what is holding you back.

I had worked out to the last detail how many words I had to write every day, every week and every month to reach the goal of 75,000 words which is what I need to produce a novel.   I had mind mapped the plot, sorted out the characters, researched the story line and started the book.
In the meantime I moved house and decluttered my life.   Maybe I decluttered my mind as well and there is nothing left inside!!!

What will it take to get back into the swing of things?

Do I need to establish a writing space?
Do I need to put everything else on hold?
I have been on holiday so it is not that.
How can I get started?

Is there anyone out there with ideas?

What is your writer's block?

The building starts!

We have been watching the events unfolding this past week as the ground at Garlington has been levelled, the fences put up and the pegs placed for the foundataions.   This is so surreal yet so exciting.   To see something emerge from a flat piece of land.   Not just anything but something well planned to fit in with our lifestyle over the remaining years of our lives.   We are pouring everything into it.   Greg and I have been so blest over the years.   Yes we have had hard times but we have never really had to struggle.   We have done well materially and we have managed to educate our children well.   What more can anyone ask from life?   We have great families and lovely friends.   I am in awe at the way our lives are unfolding and I thank God for His wonderful gifts and for giving us the opportunity to pursue this adventure of a lifetime.

If there is one thing I have learnt during this venture and that is we all have far too much 'stuff'.   We all place far too much emphasis on 'stuff' and we should all learn to share all our'stuff'.   Somewhere I heard that if everyone shared their wealth with everyone else equally then we would all be millionaires!!!   There is so much poverty going on it is frightening.   Before we move into Garlington I will be reducing my stuff by half!

Life in Hilton

We are settled in our interim house in Hilton until 'Millwood on Garlingto' is built and I must say it is a very comfortable place to be.   There are lovely trees in the garden and lots and lots of birds.   Our furniture fits in as though it was made for this place and there is a certain sense of peace everywhere.   It is much cooler up the hill but the travelling is taking a bit of getting used to.   We were so spoilt living 2 kms from work.

I love it when the mist swirls in and the drizzle starts.   I come alive and have so much energy.   When the heat and humidity hit well that is another story.   We were told we would not need a pool up here but I have swum twice in one week!!!

The shops in the village are amazing and the restuarants are too.   Had supper at Little Poland last week and it was so different.   We are spoilt for choice here and they are just 2 minutes from our doorstep.   The most wonderful shop is the Rotunda and it is going to be the death of me!!!!    Homemade cakes, breads, pies etc and every spice and garnish you could wish for.   Beautiful fresh vegies and cheeses so different.   I think I may spend quite a bit of time there!!!   I will have to walk the 1 km there to get my waist back again.

The architect said our building will start in the next week and I cannot wait.   This will be the very last house we live in and we will pour our personalities into it.   I took photos on Monday and will go tomorrow to take more.   How blessed we are to have this opportunity.

THE COUNTDOWN BEGINS!

Today is the 9th January.   22 days until we move.   The packing is going really well but the sorting is going even better.   There is nothing like decluttering and downsizing.   I find it difficult to sell items I do not want.   It is easier to give them away.   I was never born to barter!

All of us have had to go through a cleansing time as we go through our papers and our memory boxes.   24 years in one place and for all my children the home they grew up in, had their 21st birthdays in, for the two oldest got married from.   It is sad for them but they have moved on and it is our time too.   We made sure they had roots that were solid and firm.    Wherever we go that will be their home from home.

What is amazing to me is the wrench both of us are feeling at leaving the garden.   We are very keen gardeners and have enjoyed planning, planting and living off our garden over the years.   It will be exciting developing a new garden but in the old one every plant could tell a story.   We have potted up a few of our old favourites and pray they will take but what we really will miss are the beautiful trees that afford us such absolute privacy and the birds we have encouraged to visit and stay over the years.

God Bless Millwood and guide all of us on our new journey.

61 is the new 21!

'61 is the new 21' - so my youngest son tells me.   This is on the occassion of my 61st birthday last week.   Is he just being nice or are we just starting out again?

My man and I are starting a whole new phase in our lives.   Our children have left the nest and are flying solo.   This is not an easy feat in today's financial climate and we are extremely proud of them.   We have been left to ramble around in a huge house with 23 years of extremely happy memories but now it is time to move on.

We both came from large Catholic families where we moved towns and schools often as our fathers climbed their career ladders.   Making friends was not that easy and it was extremely challenging starting new schools so we decided our children would not have to do that and we put down roots in Pietermaritzburg.   Our children went to the best schools we could afford and then on to the University on our doorstep.   They were extremely privileged and worked very hard.

We have now bitten the bullet.   Put our house on the market and it sold within a month.   We are going to rent another house for about 9 months while we build our dream house in a quiet little bit of heaven called Garlington.

The months ahead of us are rather daunting as packing up 23 years of stuff is going to be a nightmare and if 61 is the new 21 then I hope I still have that kind of energy!!!

Emmigration

There are many people in this country, especially White, Indian and Coloured, whose children have emmigrated to other countries due to the local Governement's policy of Afirmative Action.   Up until now I have not really been affected by this trend but have always held a deep sympathy for those parents whose children and grandchildren are far away.

I now fall into the same boat.   Maybe not because of Affirmative Action but because of the career path my son has taken.   Jobs in his line are not easily available in South Africa and so he is over in New Zealand eyeing out the potential of a new life for himself while he watches the Rugby World Cup.

The prospect of him living so far away is dauntling but maybe this is the opportunity we have all been waiting for to follow the footsteps of our fore fathers and find new ground where we can all live and work together happily.   Somewhere where our skills would be appreciated and nurtured.

My life motto has always been 'sit back and let life take its course - what will be will be'